i tried talking to someone else. but i couldn’t do it. last night i ended whatever was between me and this guy, i was stupid for even trying to take on something else when i know that im still stuck on him.
i felt so incredibly sorry for leading the guy on, but i honestly didn’t even release that i think i was constantly making up a versions of our conversations another one with him(guy im still trying to get over). if that makes sense. and it just wasn’t healthy for me. or him.
for us people going through things and moments without someone we wanted it to last forever with, we need to learn to focus on ourself. and, for me, my relationship with God.
last night was really hard and it took a lot out of me; realizing that i can’t go back and i can’t change his mind on who he chooses. or even that i won’t ever be his first choice and i cannot count on it as much as i feel like i am.
so don’t try talking to someone else and imagining them as a person you miss. in the end you will only end up losing yourself and values as well as possibly breaking another persons’ heart like they did to yours.
Last updated on:2026-08-03T13:36:20+05:30
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you think ending things with this new guy gave you a little bit of peace, or does it feel like it brought all the grief for your ex rushing back at once?
it gave me peace. when i did it, i felt like i was moving on to be a better person than my ex was as i didn’t lead them on endlessly.
thankfully I didn't get this with the person im now talking too. we had just hit it off because we were old friends and things are going smooth and slow.
but I respect you realizing that you werent in the mindset for a relationship just yet.
stay strong and time will help heal your heart.
i’m so happy for you. it’s truly the best when it comes to you without hardship. and i appreciate the respect and advice.
i really respect that you ended it instead of pretending everything was fine.
thank you. it took a lot of courage, but i’m glad i chose this instead of creating something that would have ended with a situation like this again.
i did the exact same thing once, i thought dating someone new would finally pull me away from my ex. instead i caught myself wishing every text was from him. it made me realize i wasn't ready yet either.
I am going through this … my baby daddy broke up with me two years back and I have been trying to fill the void by trying to date new people but it never works out am now back to day zero i am choosing to do the work without numbing the pain by anyone else
i’m so sorry! but you are doing great and choosing to do the work will help so much in the end!
@illchange thank youu so much