Why did he choose her over me?

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he posted her and unadded me finally. he still follows me on instagram and i’ve seen his most recent post with her and his stupid caption. he had something on his public profile on snap. it was them kissing each other on the cheek and his bio had her initial and something about not adding him unless he knew them personally.

but then i noticed that he must’ve finally unadded me because there was no longer “accept” and it only had the add button. i think that was the worst part of it all because he knew that i let him go and decided that he didn’t need me.

and so ive been sitting here, drowning in this hole of misery, without anyone because the only person i had doesn’t want to hear it anymore. but i’m so done with being the last choice and losing everyone. i don’t even need him as someone i love, i just want him back as a friend.

Last updated on:2026-08-08T23:18:11+05:30

Comments (6)

VanillaNL
VanillaNL 3 wks ago

i’ve learned the hard way that trying to stay friends while you’re still hoping they’ll choose you again just keeps the wound open.

xoxos3
xoxos3 3 wks ago

watching an ex make someone else public while you’re still hurting feels brutal. i remember feeling replaceable when all i wanted was for my ex to still care about me somehow.

Bad662
Bad662 3 wks ago

you think you want him back as a friend, or is friendship the closest thing to having him in your life again?

grapevine
grapevine 3 wks ago

i felt like this too with wanting a friend back. i actually tried to be friends with mine. then i asked myself if i could pick a friend would i want them to treat me how he did. answer was no and it helped me move past that. the person you want as a friend is normally not the same person who they were when they left you. just a thought!

illchange
illchange 3 wks ago

yes! i try to think about this, but it’s hard because he was a really really great friend and even when he did leave me he was kind about it. the only thing there was the betrayal and lies that he fed me. so i’ll try, but it’s hard to come to terms with it!

grapevine
grapevine 3 wks ago

@illchange yes i totally get that it is very hard. i wish you the best in your healing!