Why i realized i deserved better after my breakup

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For a long time I told myself it's my fault and I allowed it.
He never hit me, so I thought it wasn't abuse. But emotional abuse is real. Being ghosted, being made to beg for bare minimum, being called a "bird" for coming back when HE is the one who always came back when he was h*rny and that breaks you slowly.
I stayed because I hoped. Because I loved him. Because every time he came back, my brain thought "maybe now he will love me right."
Staying doesn't make you weak. It makes you human. Leaving after all that? That makes you strong.
I blocked him. Not because I hate him, but because I love me more now.
I'm at peace today because I accepted he will never change. Maybe I was just not the one he loves, and that's okay. It gets easier from there.

Last updated on:2026-08-23T04:42:12+05:30

Comments (6)

toddb7
toddb7 4 wks ago

i used to think i needed him to admit what he did before i could move on. blocking him and stopping myself from waiting for that apology was what finally gave me some peace. ❤️‍🩹

infinitySS
infinitySS 4 wks ago

i really felt the part about him coming back when he wanted something and leaving you begging for the bare minimum. are you finding that the hardest part now is missing him, or accepting that the person you kept hoping he'd become probably isn't coming back?

nm0586
nm0586 4 wks ago

I'm working on accepting actually and learnt not to fall in love with potential but see people for who they are and not what I hope they would become.

KindCard18
KindCard18 4 wks ago

i stayed way too long because every time my ex came back, i convinced myself this time would be different, and leaving still felt impossible even when i knew i was hurting.

JunoNote3
JunoNote3 4 wks ago

you should be proud that you stayed, you loved, you tried and that you're strong enough now to move in another direction. Even if you doubt, or feel weak and "come back" for a moment, you will still be strong by just taking your steps in a new direction.

nm0586
nm0586 4 wks ago

Thank you .