hii to everyone xx
day n. 49 of NC for me and yeah, I have been doing better since, but obviously it’s not great everyday. One day I am not thinking about him at all, next day I think I am gonna go CRAZYY when the thoughts about him start to hit. Not sure if I still love him or want him back that much tho, but I am scared to enter any realtionship/situationship because of it. I am unsure about myself, scared I won’t be good for someone new. There is one guy that fell in love with me,, but I am unsure..like I am not capable of having strong “love” feelings for anyone now. I am scared. Don’t want to give false hopes but also I like spending time with this guy, he is so sweet.. and I am scared of hurting him. He knows my situation, yet still wants me as I tried to push him away of any feeling/romantic thing rn..
What should I do..?
I am hurt myslef, don’t wanna hirt others.
Last updated on:2026-09-08T03:53:39+05:30
Comments (11)
how does it actually feel when you’re just hanging out with him, separate from the worry about the future?
I feel really chill and calm, don’t need to pretend anything about myself
the fact that this new guy knows where you’re at and still sticks around says a lot, but protecting both of you right now might mean keeping things light and not forcing feelings that aren’t there yet. taking the pressure off helped me stop spiraling about “what if i hurt him.”
we agreed to keep things light, not forcing anything so that helped
day 49 is real progress even if the waves still hit hard. i had the exact same thing after my last one, where some days felt almost free and then boom, the thoughts would slam in and make me question everything. that fear of not being able to feel real love again is so familiar.
I am so sorry you get to go through this, it’s really bad for a mind, like everytime I have tjis “wave” of urge to contact him, I feel like I am back at the start with no progress
Honestly the only answer to this is do what is best for you. If you feel your not ready to head into a relationship yet that’s okay. However considering this guy knows your situation I’m sure he understands and it’s good that he’s not going anywhere just because of the situation. The only thing is you don’t need to rush things. Love isn’t rushed
Exactly this, but I think that wjat he wants is so was and rushed for me that I am really stressed and overwhelmed by this
@Michellee that is okay, he can’t force things to be rushed that’s not his place. You do what’s best for you and when is best for you
@Charlotte1029 we agreed to keeps things lite and not rushed, gonna see eachother again
@Michellee now that sounds like a great plan. I hope he treats you well