Am I wrong for being uncomfortable with how far my ex is going to stay connected to her friends especially her ex?
Her friend group is mostly on Discord. Originally her ex wasn’t part of the group but one of her friends ended up kicking her from the original server so they could add her ex instead.
While we were still dating she made a new Discord account. Since we broke up she’s gotten really close with her ex again. She plays games with him all the time they’ve started matching profile pictures “as friends” and she even made a completely new TikTok account under a different persona so she could follow him without him knowing it was actually her.
That’s the part that really bothers me. She’s going this far to stay connected to him while hiding who she actually is. I honestly feel like she still has feelings for him especially because she knows he hates her and wants nothing to do with her.
I know we’re broken up and I don’t want to control who she talks to or who she’s friends with. But watching her go this far just to stay around her ex feels weird to me.
Maybe I’m reading too much into it but it feels like she’s doing way more than just trying to be friends.
Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable about this?
Last updated on:2026-09-09T06:48:00+05:30
Comments (5)
Honestly, I can understand why this is bothering you. There are a few things in what you described that I’d pay close attention to. If you really want to know what may be going on and what you can do about it, I’d be happy to explain
i'd be uncomfortable too, honestly. i had to learn that once we broke up, i couldn't keep checking what my ex was doing because every new thing became another reason for me to spiral.
i don't think you're wrong for feeling uncomfortable, but do you think the bigger hurt is what she's doing with her ex, or knowing she seems willing to go this far for someone else?
watching an ex suddenly get close to someone they used to have history with can make your brain obsess over every little detail, especially when they're hiding their identity to stay connected
Not wrong, but what are you going to do about it? Unless you want to let her friends know they are being catfished, it's best to stop concerning yourself with your ex and her friends - it will drive you crazy.