Why self-love is hard after a breakup

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I know I need to love myself and be confident in myself. I thought I was when I was with him, but maybe it was the validation that made me think I already love myself.
Have you had to learn to love yourself? What did you do? How are you doing on your self love journey now?

Last updated on:2026-09-17T18:43:11+05:30

Comments (7)

Dimension2
Dimension2 3 days ago

what do you think would feel different in your everyday life?

skeptical
skeptical 3 days ago

for me, self love started really small.

HealingMe26
HealingMe26 3 days ago

How? Just by small actions each day?

Ad9059
Ad9059 3 days ago

after my breakup i realized so much of my confidence came from being chosen by someone else, and losing that validation made me feel like i didn’t know myself anymore.

HealingMe26
HealingMe26 3 days ago

I think that's where I'm at.

JiveDash856
JiveDash856 5 days ago

For me I had to build myself by engaging in those things that I neglected whilst in a relationship and had to learn to enjoy my own company without needed validation from anyone

SweetSun699
SweetSun699 5 days ago

I think therapy is the best option. We’re really not qualified to comment on that (lol). I definitely think some time needs to pass before starting such a journey. I feel like I’m not myself anymore, and that’s why I sought help.

Also, great book — highly recommend it: I Love This Version of Myself That You Brought Out by Jaymen Chang.