It's already been a month since the breakup. I told him we could start over as friends after a while. And he was OK with that.
Cue ONE WEEK LATER, he texts me: Hi. I miss you. Why did you block me? I thought you wanted to be friends.
How about I be friends when I'm DAMN READY?! Our mutual friend told him that I needed space.
Speaking of the mutual friend...He finds out that we hung out, and after ANOTHER WEEK, he tells this friend that he wants talk to "me and inly me". I really thought he wanted tips for therapy...NOPE!!!
He spent that call acting nonchalant about a four year relationship ending, screaming at me that "A relationship is between 2 people, OK?! We either work it out ourselves or go to couple's counseling!"
But wait...it gets WORSE...
He WEAPONIZES this friends mental health!!! Calling him names like dishonest and a phony, and saying that this friend is "only pretending to care" and "doesn't know how to help". This dude is a PEER SUPPORT SPECIALIST.
Told him to lose my number. We can't be friends. Goodbye.
I have truama related to someone sharing my mental health issues with an abusive ex, AND HE KNOWS THAT.
So yeah, still crying over this bastard. Still waiting for an apology. I'm so pathetic! Why am I crying when I could be getting back into mental health?! I almost gave up on getting my MSW because of him!!!
Last updated on:2026-09-20T11:14:11+05:30
Comments (5)
what was it that finally gave you the push to tell him off on that call?
block his number completely and don't look back, because expecting an apology from a guy like that will only drag out the pain.
Thank you. That made me feel stronger.
the fact that he used your past trauma against you and went after your friend makes my stomach turn. i had an ex who loved to play cool until he realized he was losing control, and then he pulled out every dirty trick to hurt me. you are NOT pathetic for crying over someone who treated you like that, your body is just getting all that toxicity out.
Thank you. I hope it gets out quickly...