In 8 years of our relationship i never felt that he doesn't love me, i felt loved and valued.
suddenly he came to me saying that he doesn't wanna be together anymore as he has been dating someone else for last 3 months.
i was shattered.
i tried talking and finding answers of my question but everytime he would come up with a different story.
now i don't even feel like asking him, i feel so dead inside
i don't know how to see life without him.
Its all dead for me.
so i screamed and cried on calls with him in return he called my psycho.
i don't know where did all that love vanished.....suddenly.
feel like he stopped loving me long ago and i was the one who stretched tbis relationship but then i never felt that he doesn't love me.
he knows i will be crying...still he is not even texting me.
did he ever love me?
how can a girl who he met 3 months ago rewrite our 8 years of relationship.
we were in long distance.
is distance the reason?
am i nothing more than that?
feels so weird
Last updated on:2026-09-20T09:02:12+05:30
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i would stop trying to get answers from him right now. i chased explanations from my ex until every new story made me question another memory, and eventually i had to accept that his choices could never give me the closure i was begging for.
you say you never felt unloved for those 8 years, do you really believe all of that love was fake, or does it feel that way because of how suddenly he left?
feeling like the whole relationship had been erased overnight, and being called “crazy” when i was falling apart made it hurt even more
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. After 8 years, it makes sense that you feel completely lost, especially when he gave you no clear explanation and you’re left trying to understand how everything changed.
But please don’t let his decision make you question whether those 8 years were real. You felt loved, valued and cared for during that relationship, and that experience was real even if his feelings eventually changed.
And the girl he met 3 months ago didn’t rewrite your 8 years. She is simply part of what happened after the relationship had already reached a different point. You don’t have to compete with her or figure out what she has that you don’t.
I know you want answers from him, but if every conversation gives you a different story, continuing to ask may only hurt you more. Sometimes the closure we want from the person who hurt us never comes.
You are not nothing. You’re someone who lost an 8-year relationship, and of course it feels like you lost a huge part of your life. But this feeling of “my life is over” is a feeling of grief, not a prediction of your future. Please be gentle with yourself right now.
This is so horrible to even imagine, be strong girl, leave that guy, make an unbeatable lifestyle that he never can imagine, I know it will be so hard but shrinking for a man like him is worthless!