My partner recently ended our relationship after dating since last December. Although I am a married mom who usually dates partnered people we fell in love and I disclosed in July that I was starting my own divorce process. He initially expressed enthusiasm for our future but soon began showing "all-or-nothing" tendencies flaking on plans and canceling our usual date night to see another person.
During our last overnight visit I asked for clearer communication and expressed that I prioritize him. He promised to do better and encouraged me to open up about my split from my financially dependent husband. Shortly after he completely cut off text communication for a full weekend. When I confronted him he broke up with me—stating he wants a primary nesting partner (NP/s) needs to focus on relationships heading in that direction and refuses to be my "escape."
I am devastated and questioning my worth. Out of the four people I have loved in my life—including my estranged husband—every single one has stopped putting in effort or decided I wasn't enough for them. Even though my friends reassure me that I did nothing wrong it is hard not to feel defeated.
Last updated on:2026-09-21T23:00:12+05:30
Comments (3)
Most relationships end. Most people are not the right people for us. Most people are incompatible with us, for a variety of reasons. That’s not about you, or anything wrong with you, that’s just being human.
Let your life get settled. Handle the divorce and get some therapy to deal with that.
Then if you still want poly start dating again. If not you can pursue a new monogamous relationship.
I‘m wondering if your string of bad luck had something to do with ignoring a lot of red flags early on in those relationships?