Why did my avoidant ex call me after three months?

Nearly three months after breaking up with my avoidant ex—who moved on six weeks later—she out of nowhere called me while I was heading to a hockey game. She claimed she needed help with her Jewish studies homework but her question was complete nonsense and I could hear her friends laughing in the background. I stayed flat and polite hanging up after 45 seconds.
Given her history of post-breakup mind games—like posting petty content selectively deleting photos and previously texting her ex during our relationship—I blocked her on social media long ago to focus on self-improvement. Following the call I texted her to establish a firm boundary out of respect for her new boyfriend:
"Out of respect for your boyfriend you shouldn’t be calling me. Not lookin to be a dick just don’t wanna get involved in shit."
When she replied claiming she "asked for permission first" I closed the door respectfully:
I genuinely hope you're doing well and enjoying sophomore year but I kindly ask that we don't speak unless it's a dire emergency. I want no bad blood and to respect your relationship but I want focus on moving forward and leaving the past behind. Wish you the best."
I felt insulted that she tried to drag me back into unnecessary drama right as I was finally getting my life together. I have zero interest in post-breakup toxicity and just want to keep moving forward.

Last updated on:2026-09-22T17:16:12+05:30

Comments (1)

AwayStar
AwayStar 10 mins ago

i’ve had an ex pop back up with some ridiculous excuse after i’d finally started getting my head straight. i remember that little rush of anger, like seriously, why now?