Hi ,all, I hope you are well.
im really struggling with my break up.
I ended things with my partner and Sadly I believe she has rebounded rather quickly.
before this I regretted my decision and tried to get her back and failed.
I respect her right to move on but picturing her with someone new is destroying my soul, jealousy, ego all in one big pot.
does anyone have any tips to deal with intrusive thoughts? they are constantly throughout my day and make me feel sick.
thanks
Last updated on:2026-09-27T15:17:44+05:30
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that sick, heavy feeling in your stomach when you picture them with someone else is actual torture. i dumped my ex two years ago, immediately realized i made a massive mistake, and then had to watch her date a guy from her gym three weeks later. my ego was completely shattered and i spent entire workdays just staring at the wall feeling sick.
the only thing that stopped those mental pictures from torturing me was making a strict rule to put my phone in another room the SECOND my brain started spiraling. keeping your hands busy with something physical like a long walk or throwing yourself into cooking forces your brain to focus on what is right in front of you instead of those fake movie scenes in your head.
are you still checking her social media or asking mutual friends about her, or are these thoughts just popping up out of nowhere?
no social media which is good but the thoughts just come out of nowhere its messing me up