So its been 18 days seen i went no contact with my now ex girlfriend who broke up with me suddenly recently after 4 months of dating saying she feels more platonic over text but before this she was at my house days before saying I love you too and holding hands with me and kissing me and hanging out with me and then she breaks up with me! she mentioned "over time" but what does she mean over time!? she never told me she felt like this and I feel like she led me to believe everything was fine she said she believed it was fine since she thinks im wonderful to be around and that she likes spending time with me. and she said "I loved you just not in the way I thought and im sure i wanted a relationship with you" and that broke me cuz she showed no signs of that, and wanted to be still friends but at that point I knew it would be impossible and I loved her so much help please she was my first relationship and I feel like a fool, we went to prom together and her friends were my friends but they dont talk to me much now ever since I went no contact, and all this caused me to go into a depressive episode for 2 weeks where I would try to do things I enjoy but nothing helped and everything felt hopeless and then my mom asked me if I would consider seeing psychiatrist to which I agree and the increase helped and ive been feeling a little better over time and resently got my hair done at the salon for a new look and I love it but I guess im still worried if i'll run into ex girlfriend at prom and what to do if i do but im still going cuz i want to have fun but I feel so alone sometimes even though I have my family and their great but I miss having friends and overall I dont understand how someone's feelings for me could change so fast after 4 months I know it was sorta long distance (i do online school due to rare illness) but we texted everyday and planned when to see each other again and talked about it a lot. i miss herš
Last updated on:2026-10-02T02:26:30+05:30
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that whiplash of hearing āi love youā and then getting broken up with days later can make you question every single memory. my first relationship ended in a way that made me feel stupid too, but you werenāt a fool for believing what she showed you.
thank you i still sometimes wonder what I did or if im too to much to handle because of my rare illness
i wanted an explanation for what āover timeā meant, like if i could just find the exact moment her feelings changed, it would hurt less.
exactly! like she felt this and decided to let me believe we were in love when she kept how she felt from me
iām really glad youāre still going to prom and that you found something you love about your new look. if you do see her there, what feels scariest to you, seeing her with other people, having to talk to her, or feeling all those old emotions hit you again?
im afraid of her trying to talk to me and my feelings of the old memories hit and honestly the possibility of seeing her moved on