I’m trying to let go of my ex and I genuinely don’t want to get back together. He always cheats on me and treats me bad and he knows when he comes back I always takr him back after his other girlfriend has went home. He has recently called and texted me, and I haven’t responded. The problem is that now I keep getting the urge to check whether he has tried again whether there are new messages, missed calls, etc.
I know checking doesn’t actually help me. If there’s nothing there, I feel rejected; if there is something there, I become anxious and start wondering what he wants. Either way, I end up thinking about him.
please help.
Last updated on:2026-10-08T11:13:46+05:30
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This happened to me also and I kept taking him back everytime he left and I finally got the strength to leave him but I do miss him despite all the pain he put me through but I know I don't feel safe in the relationship so I try to think about how I want my life to play out in the future and then I can clearly see he doesn't fit in it and I try to control my urge to reach out
I’ll have to try to control the urge
i used to check my block list and spam folder twenty times a day just to see if my toxic ex was still trying to get through. when someone treats you like a backup option after their other girlfriend leaves, your brain gets hooked on that breadcrumb validation even when you know he's trash. ignoring his texts is already huge progress, but that urge to check is so hard to break.
I’ll have to block him hey
what finally stopped me from checking was giving my phone to my sister every evening and telling her to change my passcode if i asked for it back. taking away the physical ability to look for a few hours at a time gives your nervous system a chance to calm down.
i think cheating should not be tolerated at all. the reason i am still desperate in my ex is becauss he was so loyal do not cheat, do not smoke, and no other girl friends aside from me. even though he's very good looking the fact that he hates woman who likes him and is not close to any woman makes me deperate to him so if he cheats like yours i think I'm gonna heal immediately. know your limits and stand on your ground.
block all her sns & delete number log out all u sns focus yourself do hobby gym
you able to fully block his number and socials so those notifications can't even sit there waiting for you