After eight years together starting finally got away from my abusive cheating ex. He constantly put me down used me for money and gaslit me whenever I called out his behavior. I spent years begging him for bare-minimum affection which left me with severe panic attacks and insomnia.
It’s been almost a year since the breakup but seeing his new relationship is breaking my heart all over again. He unfollowed all the explicit Instagram accounts I used to beg him to remove and he built a romantic playlist for his new girlfriend using the exact same songs he once sent me. He treated me like trash yet he seems to be making an effort to be loyal to her.
I’ve made great friends and improved my life but during quiet nights while studying I still miss him and crave his presence. Why does it hurt so much to see him give someone else the love I begged for and how do I stop missing a guy who treated me so badly?
Last updated on:2026-10-22T03:38:11+05:30
Comments (4)
seeing my ex treat someone new with the care i begged for made me question why i was never enough. that kind of hurt is BRUTAL
eight years of being put down and begging for the bare minimum leaves such a deep scar.
when you see him making all this effort for her, does it hurt more because you still miss him, or because it feels like he was capable of giving you that love all along and just chose not to
you miss the attachment , not the hurt, healing takes time