me and my “husband separated I say husband bc apparently we was never married bc he didn’t turn in some paper so idk what he is fr but he decided he doesn’t wanna be with me after 4 years of being together he says it’s bc he’s so stressed with money and stuff and bc I’m unemployed and can’t drive bc of anxiety and stuff he just feels like I’m too much to deal with im so deeply incredibly hurt and hoping I can get some answers or other feelings abt this 💔 and he’s talking abt splitting ways he deleted a profile and cover photo of me and him but didn’t delete every single picture of me but I was the one that did it first so I just suspect he’s doing it bc I am I just need help fr pls.
Last updated on:2026-10-29T09:08:02+05:30
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I finally unadded him off all social media platforms and he immediately try’s to add me back on everything what does this even mean?
when my world imploded like this was stopping the social media photo games immediately and taking a step back to focus only on my immediate safety and basic daily needs.
I understand both yours and his side. if you are both willing, I suggest doing couple's counselling and maybe professional therapy to help you overcome the anxieties that is preventing you from your potential🙏 It's all about working together, whatever problems you have you will overcome with the right resources
finding out after four years that he never even filed the paperwork while using your anxiety and unemployment as an excuse to walk away is just cruel, and feeling completely lost after that kind of shock is so valid.
spending 4 years and choosing to walk away after all the memories and hardships we shared hurts the most
Not really, it's not cruel, those are actually valid reasons to get a break. Reverse the roles, imagine a guy didn't have a job to keep family afloat and had too much anxiety to do things? women don't fancy that, do u get the point? but I think at the end of the day she may need professional help with overcoming anxieties that prevent her from living the life she deserves without fear.
@Georgia I don't want to diminish you, but it may be reasonable to say he wanted to settle down with financial stability. some people are not equipped to handle certain things like mental health, it can be a lot for 1 person to carry another's load. So I understand your hurt but I also understand how overwhelming it can be for him as well
are you somewhere safe with family or a trusted friend right now, or are you having to handle all this heavy stress completely on your own today?
yes I’m staying with my mom as of rn and no I am not handling it on my own thank you for asking