i know it sounds STUPID and unessecery and i may Not do it. I removed him a week ago. I sometimes feel okay with that choise, because its like i showed my anger and set a boundary, after he dumped his anger while breaking up with me. Having him stressed me out, cause he'd view my stories. Last time, he view it after 16 hours. That added to my reasons, but i regret not waiting a bit more... i dont know how to deal with both scenarios. I can't go back either way
I'm changing and i want him to see me, but he showed me back then that he didn't care anymore. If i followed him again, i may embarrass myself and give him power... I feel so confused. I just cant believe yhst he can move on carelessly. I dont want to be forgotten
Last updated on:2026-10-30T10:29:11+05:30
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get why you regret removing him, but i’d give yourself a little more time before following him again. i used to make those choices when i was hurting, hoping my ex would notice me, and it hurt even more when nothing happened.
i feel how much you want him to see the person you’re becoming, but if he followed you again tomorrow and still acted like he didn’t care, would that actually make you feel better?
the things is he showed what i need to take as an answer when he was ending things, 2.5 months ago. i think it doesn't even matter, its just an ego thing atp
I have decided to be selfish and prioritize my happiness ,it's important to affirm urself that you won't fail
that fear of being forgotten made me want to keep a tiny window open to my ex, even when looking at each other’s stories was hurting me. i missed him, but i think i missed knowing i still existed in his world too. 💔
Be kind to yourself ❤️
I blocked my ex only a week ago and I do relapse and unlock her just to see if she has posted. I don't like the whole "are they looking at my story" game it's just too much anxiety for me. I encourage you to go easy on yourself. give yourself a little self compassion. it's okay to feel this way especially after I only a week. thank you for sharing with the community what's on your heart
thank you so much. yeah, it was so stressful, especially because he ended things and i couldn't stop overthinking, spiraling over a view. Im gonna give it a bit time
Don't. don't give him power. bring that energy onto you, give yourself power. Don't do things so he can it, do it for you and your mental health. if you think about him, remember all the negatives and how much he disrespected you so you don't go back to him. and don't forget to try new hobbies and surround yourself with your friends :)
oops typo I meant *don't do things so he can see it, do it for your mental health, do it for you
you're so right, thank you! i don't wanna go back but im scared at the same time, how he could do it... its so hard for me not to romanticise. I wanna stop be so dependent, but i cant accept that i have to move on without feeling justified from him
@Erii of course, but now that i cut off access, it feels really weird