My ex cheated on me twice by downloading a dating app, and I broke up with him 3 weeks ago. Now he is visiting Europe (he's from the U.S.) for work, and bought a flight to my city without telling me. He now expects me to let him stay at my apartment, eventhough I dont have a guest room nor a second bed, meaning in the bed with me. His mom is begging me to reconcile and he is crying on the phone everyday. I dont know what to do, since he knows my adress, blocking wont help.
Last updated on:2025-07-05T15:17:10+05:30
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thank you for all of your encouragement and kind words. I told him I dont want to see him and he is changing his plans, I feel relieved
This sounds so stressful. You’re not responsible for his feelings focus on what’s best for you
thank you🙏
That’s a lot to handle. You’re not obligated to let him stay or reconcile. Protect your peace.
thank you🙏
That’s really overwhelming. Remember you broke up for a reason.
thank you🙏
Thinking of you! From experience, it gets worse. Stay strong, do whatever you need to move on and allow someone more worthy to come and treasure your heart. I'm working on self worth and respect at the moment. It's hard when you were raised without it.
Thank you so much. I know its very hard, I used to get shamed as a kid for having boundaries. I hope we both meet someone like that🙏
@WavyVibes47 I'm believing that we will. I'm pregnant to the guy who has been cheating on me, and only left a few days ago- 7 months pregnant. I want better for me and this baby. I want better for you too. You got this, we got this 👊🏽
You’re not obligated to let him stay or reconcile. Do what feels right for you and protects your peace.
Thank you, I will🙏
Wow that’s a lot to deal with. Stay strong and prioritize yourself. You don’t owe him anything after what happened.
You're right, I dont. Thank you🙏
You deserve better than this. Don’t let guilt or pressure make you compromise your boundaries.
Very accurate, thank you for saying that🙏
That sounds like such a tough situation. You deserve your space and peace don’t let anyone pressure you
yes, I will tell him today that I dont want to see him, I just hope he doesnt end up showing up regardless
sis, as a guy, i am currently heart broken too. but u need to have self respect and self love, im sorry to say this but if u keep him, it will get worse. know that someone out there is waiting for you, someone that matches ur energy and loyalty, some one that doesnt give false or fake promises. we can do this together sis, all of us. let him go, your younger self and future self will be so proud of u