Day 50, I do feel better since my first day, I ve learned how to spend my time without her, not having to seek her when I was struggling and still trying to find myself, the parts I gave up completely for her just to make her happy. It's okay to change, but it's important to not forget yourself in the process as I did. Now knowing how boundaries really work, the perception of controlling and manipulative behavior will help me out later in life. Could I take my ex back tho? Probably not, if I do there will be clear boundaries that will be enforced if they are broken or just separate, this time for good. I still have feelings for her, but they don't feel like love, they are more like caring and hope she does better. I m slowly getting over it and I m just overall more happy, no more panick attacks or palpitations, just doing better.
Last updated on:2025-08-31T08:21:12+05:30
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you’re figuring out where you end and she begins. happened to me too, i noticed i could want someone to be ok without needing them back in my life
this feels familiar. i remember when the panic finally stopped and i could breathe without thinking of him. i still cared too just in a different way not the same love.
yeah, after we broke up and we were separate they suddenly stopped. But then I was overwhelmed by all the emotions I had lol
I’m on day 11 and I feel better but I know I’ll still have to talk to him because his stuff is at my house.
Maybe it's better if you ask someone to help you out? I think it's better that you don't see him, might stir up emotions
@AlexHadADay yeah my roommate is going to help when the time comes
i thought i was fine at day 50 too. then she texted and all the crap came flooding back. i hated that i still cared even after everything she pulled.
I m expecting her to text me sooner or later, I d prefer not to get texted out of "I miss the way it was" type of things. But I do not really care or not I m hoping for it, just preparing myself mentally that she can do it, so it doesn't mess me up.