His birthday is this weekend, I shouldn't reach out right? I dont want to hurt his feelings but also he broke up with me so.. im not really sure what to do. I know that no contact means no contact at all... but its his birthday so it feels wrong not to at least wish him well.
Last updated on:2025-09-18T21:49:52+05:30
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do you feel like you’d be sending it for him or more for your own closure?
I didnt want to send a long message or seek closure, just say happy birthday because we spent 7.5 years together and I still genuinely care about him
birthdays make it tricky, but honestly if he ended things, you don’t owe him that gesture. protecting your peace is more important than protecting his feelings right now.
I understand. Its difficult to say nothing at all. I know I dont owe him anything but I still care about him.
i felt this exact thing last year… my ex’s bday came up like 3 weeks after he dumped me. i typed out a message and then deleted it. hardest thing but i was proud later.
Recently he had his birthday so I wished in our friends group when everyone started texting. tbh it was my plan to send a birthday text in group so I don't need to send it seperately to him. so I subtly made everyone send a birthday text to him in the group so I sent it in the group. this way he can't ignore me and it's not like I did not wish. it's a win win
Do not reach out! It won't go the way you want it to and you will just be crushed all over again. Trust me on that! Continue on your healing journey.
@SadFox who cares what he thinks?! Do you think he would show you the same courtesy?! Focus on your healing! Please.
Just send a simple happy birthday message. That way, you won't have what if moments.
I thought about that, I was concerned how painful it would feel if he didnt respond
@SadFox just be mentally prepared. If he doesn't respond, you've done your part. That's on him
Im in the same position! 😭
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