Healing & Detachment Isn't Linear
It's been 176 days of no contact, but I've bumped into him 3 times (our parent's are neighbours & we're family friends). The first time we saw each other at the supermarket & hugged, but we didn't speak (cause he was on phone) Thank God 🙏🏼 The second time, I found him at my parents house, helping my dad & I was cold & distant towards him, cause what the hell!!! 😳 The third time was during the holidays, when I literally bumped into him on both our parent's street as he was walking to meet his new girlfriend (yes, he's dating & it seems serious- he's introduced her to his family {a step that took forever with us, even though our parents know each other, as well as some mutual friends, that I distanced myself from, for my peace of mind}. Then today, as I was walking in my parent's neighborhood, I saw him & his new girl in his car laughing & shortly after, I broke down during my walk. I'm currently dating someone new, however we're going through a rough patch at the moment. I'm genuinely trying to move on and leave him in my past, but some days are harder than others...
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when you broke down on that walk, do you think it was about him, or about feeling unsure and shaky in your current relationship at the same time?
I thought about this today. And I figure it's a little bit of both. We'd dated on & off for over 6 years, so detaching isn't like a switch that I can just turn off. So seeing him with his new person, when things are shaky in my current relationship just made it worse. Truthfully speaking; I miss him. There are things that came really easily with us, that are taking a while to develop with my partner. Then again, I haven't know him for long, so I'm giving it time & hoping for the best 🤞🏼
i had an ex whose family lived way too close too. random run-ins, seeing them with someone new, pretending you’re fine when you’re not. i was “moved on” on paper but my body didn’t get the memo.
I'm sooo glad that you get the complexity of it all. It's not an easy journey, but I'm taking it a day at a time...
sorry dear
Focus on your new partner, they don't deserve one foot in and one foot out.
Yes keep going. You never know what the universe has in store for you. ❤️
The point is to keep going ❤️🤏🏽