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Lack of intimacy before the breakup

Anyone else been in this spot where there was a noticeable decline in intimacy before the breakup? Like before the breakup looking back I've noticed our sex life became non existent, kisses became for

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How to overcome self blame and "what ifs"

So it's been nearly 3 months now NC and I'm not spiraling and I've accepted that bridge is burnt and that me and my ex are done. The only thing I still struggle with is this feeling of self blame and

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The scary thing

The thing I'm terrified most now is that I can slowly feel the pain ebbing away. The part of that which haunts me is once the pains gone it's finally over and I don't want it to be over :(.

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Ex hates me and I wanna puke

The breakups all my fault, I didn't cheat or abuse her or anything but I kept making mistakes and I broke her trust. I felt her detaching. She loved me so much and I messed it up and now she hates me.

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How to stop hating myself?

Will try to keep this short as possible to anyone taking the time to read this thank you and any advice is appreciated please any you can offer, so my ex left me for her mental health and to be alone

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Mental Health

Anyone else been dumped for mental health and have advice?

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My fault.

I knew you were checking out and leaving. Can't say I didn't see it coming. ever since that fight where I told a stupid lie. a small stupid white lie. I knew it was the end. I tried to fix it and you

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She hates me but I love her

She hates me, wants nothing to do with me, despises me, is nasty to me, wants me out if her life for good but I still love her. I know I can't force her to love me, I can't make her wanna be with me b

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So confused

During the breakup you said it had nothing to do with me, that it wasn't about me not being enough or doing something wrong and that I was a "Perfect Loving Caring BF" and now you "Hate you for what y

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How to come to terms with them hating you?

Will keep it relatively short but sorta long so please read this I would appreciate it, dating for a year, I made mistakes whcih I think led to her leaving she says left for her mental health, after t

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The Worst Part

The worst part is that I can't say I truly didn't see it coming. I felt it, I noticed when you pulled away after that fight where I broke your trust over something so dumb. I noticed you being less ha

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How to stop ruminating and quiet my mind?

Any advice to stop ruminating, my head recently for some reason feels like a constant tornado of thoughts of "what if's" and thinking over every single mistake in the relationship I made trying to fi

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Ex hates me and I'm confused

So my ex told me lately she hates me and tbh I'm confused and need advice. We split on amicable terms if not one sided. When we split she told me it wasn't cause of me and all that stuff and that she

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How to stop ruminating?

Me and my ex split on good terms with her saying the breakup wasn't cause of me not being enough or doing something wrong. However despite this I keep going over in my head every single mistake I made

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Blaming myself need advice

My ex left me for mental health reasons and feeling depressed and ig the usual things people say when they leave for this reason. During the breakup she insisted aggressively that she felt the same ab

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Feel like I ruined everything

So my ex left me due to depression, past trauma and ideation and needing to be alone to heal, not drag me down, not feel blame or shame of not giving me her all, not feel guilty of not being enough of

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30 days NC.

It's finally been essentially a month again since we spoke, I remember when you said you didn't wanna go a day without talking with me, now you couldn't care less to go a month. Finally learnt to stop

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Ex said they hate me

So it's been a month and I ran into her after she blocked me on everything and when I went to talk to her she told me she hates me, is better off without me not giving her space after the breakup, tha

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Self Forgiveness Tips?

So my first ever breakup when me and my ex broke up I struggled with separation anxiety and every 4-5 days when she'd block me somewhere new or delete a chat would reach out since we left on good term