I messaged him, just to say hi.
Sent him a friend request, which I guess he accepted/misclicked instantly lol.
He replied to say "stay safe" and "keep smiling"?? He's clearly just being nice/polite but is completely done.
Then he said "I'm sorry" and deleted me...
So much for wanting to be friends!! No closure, no talk, nothing.
But I reached further than the NC goal I aimed for, and I'm (reasonably) at peace with it... pretty much what I expected but it still hurts.
Last updated on:2026-05-11T19:21:34+05:30
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I feel like the anxiety never goes away. I don't want to get back with him, but the anxiety is awful. How did you deal with the feeling of anxiety? It's been 3 weeks since we broke up and he told me he doesn't want anything to do with me
Sorry you're going through this too lovely <3
I never got actual closure, nor did he enforce any boundaries (other than blocking me on one platform), so it may be a little different.
I feel a lot more secure now, worked through my anxieties for three weeks (plus the three weeks before NC, which were very breadcrumby so probably made it worse), to the point where I genuinely felt okay, then waited for a couple weeks(ish) longer, to be sure about how I felt.
I messaged him to say hi, but received no real response or willingness to reconnect.
In your case, it will hurt, but you should block him, at least on any instant messenger / prevalent social media, so you can stop thinking about him.
Try to spend more time with friends, I found that messaging other people helped the hopeful/disappointed reaction to getting notifications.
Make sure you take proper care of yourself. The anxiety will disappear with time, and you can read about attachment theory, self-regulation etc, so if/when the emotions/questions do return, you can process them in a safe, healthy way.
I hope so... almost been two months and I'm 99% back to my normal self! Guessing he has some avoidant tendencies or something, maybe needs longer to process things.
I hope with time your situation becomes easier too <3
I can only imagine that kind of pain. Its hard to fully let go of someone who once meant so much in your life. I really wanted to stay friends with my ex, but I've come to realise that wouldn't be such a good idea. Those romantic feelings and deep care dont go away easy. I have to remember, what would I feel if he was dating someone else? it would crush me, therefore I dont see him as a friend...yet. Maybe in 6 months when those feelings dissipate, I may reconsider
I'm so sorry 😞 I really genuinely just want to be friends with him! But he doesn't have any interest in talking. Maybe he's emotionally unavailable, maybe he's dating someone new... don't know! Either is fine, not trying to get back together...
Just sucks he has no interest. Makes me feel like a burden just trying to interact.
@silly maybe he just needs some time too?
@DreamyWay697 Oops somehow didn't reply directly to this comment. But thank you!