i’d been talking to this guy for about a month. right from the start he told me he only wanted friendship because he had just come out of a 2 year relationship and i tried really hard to respect that even though i’d liked him for a long time. but we talked every single day texted constantly called each other hung out all the time and honestly it started feeling like more than friendship. i went to one of his band shows we ended up working together too and being around him just felt easy and exciting.
at the start of may i finally went over to his house. he’d been nervous about it because apparently his mom was weird about girls coming over but it ended up being completely fine. we sat in his garage watching movies and slowly got closer the entire night. then right as we started another movie he paused it and told me he needed to talk. he admitted he felt like he’d been leading me on that he liked me too but he wasn’t ready for anything serious. we had this long emotional conversation where he basically said he should’ve stopped things earlier because he didn’t trust himself not to blur the line. he also admitted he kissed another girl at a party while all of this was happening.
i left feeling completely crushed. he was the first guy i’d genuinely liked like this and suddenly i felt stupid for getting attached. after that we texted a little more but decided we should stop talking for now and give each other space. i know it’s probably the right thing because he clearly still isn’t over his ex but it hurts so much. i miss him constantly. seeing him around school and work makes everything harder. he still watches my instagram stories and we’ve talked briefly about work since then but that’s it.
one of his friends told me that if he really likes me he’ll come back when he’s ready but honestly i don’t know if that’ll ever happen. i just feel heartbroken and stuck trying to let go of someone who made me feel so important for a little while.
Last updated on:2026-05-12T21:30:47+05:30
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this guy is a gentleman.He didnt give u false hopes and exploited u emotionally.you should consider yourself lucky.U probably should leave him alone and let him heal.what is urs will always come to u.Always remember
that hurts most is he admitted he liked you too, because that leaves you hanging onto the “maybe later” idea.
what’s keeping you stuck is that there was never a clean ending? like he still watches your stories, still talks to you sometimes, and it keeps reopening the hope a little every time?
this one feels so painfully familiar. i was in almost the exact same situation with a guy who “wasn’t ready” but still acted like we were basically together.