so he’s been completely silent since I got got broken up off on Email after four years. the longest I have gone is four days and I keep sending stupid messages. I get to a point where I get this anxious need to contact him and then I end up contacting him. will this ever stop
Last updated on:2026-06-24T19:48:31+05:30
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when you send the messages, are you hoping he'll reply and fix things, or is it more that the silence itself feels impossible to sit with right now?
I’m hoping he will reply and fix things with me
getting broken up with over email after four years would mess with my head too.
after my ex left, i'd make it a few days and then send another message because the silence felt unbearable. four years is a long time to suddenly lose, and that anxious pull to reach out was VERY real for me too.
so sorry to hear that I got broken up with in a really bad way too. but trust me when I say texting only makes it worse I look back now and I wish I didn’t sent any of it, I wish I could’ve been stronger so I get it, but I think it only pushes them away more so just give him his space and try to heal
I just never wanted it to be over I loved him so much it’s not like I did anything wrong either he just moved back into his controlling mothers house which now he’s unemployed and living like a child again at 33 years old
im so sorry about the awful way you got broken up with. no one deserves this. i really understand the feeling of wanting to contact the ones we gave everything to but its not worth it if its not what they want. i wish you healing, we are all in this together
just wish he could make me understand why he did this
That's an awful way to be treated 😔 Sure it will in time when you realise you deserve better and messaging doesn't solve anything? I don't know, I'm 2 weeks into leaving the home we had started 4 and a half months ago because she had severe trust issues from 2, 3 years ago when we were getting together and she isn't prepared to work on the aftermath of silly drunken arguments. feels so frustrating and that it's done before we've barely started