He broke up with me because of my past I used to go clubbing a lot but really only to dance but I kissed some people there as well not a lot maybe 3 or 5 but it was over 2 years before we even me. during our relationship I was really really loyal i had pictures all over my phone but he never did something like that and he also kissed someone else 1 time during our relationship. when he recendly found out I kissed people before he got really mad and broke up with me. it's just so weird and hurts I can't change my past and it dosent make me a different person and it's also not like he never kissed anyone before. it just feels so unfair and also kinda like it's my fault... ist it my fault ?
Last updated on:2026-08-23T04:49:11+05:30
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i really don't think this is your fault. your past can be something he feels he can't accept, but you were loyal to him during the relationship, and you don't owe anyone a rewritten version of your life before they knew you.
i'd honestly want to know, did he ever tell you why this changed things for him now, especially since he had kissed someone during your relationship too?
he never really told me why it changed it he just said its too muche and he dosent want it the hole situation is just so confusing to me no matter how I look at it it makes no sense
hey, its not your fault. you cant change the past but everyone has their past even him. besides that your past isnt even that bad if you ask me. whats bad tho is that he kissed someone DURING your relationship thats straight up cheating right? and you were also really loyal to him so to me it seems like you dodged a bullet and i think he got mad at you because hes just insecure.
yes it definitely is cheating so it's just weird that he is judging me for my past when he straight up cheated. I honestly think he is really insecure or it was just an excuse to break up because it just makes no sense
@GoofyTu474 you do not need to understand. just think that either way, you do not want an insecure man, you do not want a cheater, you do not want a man that blames you for the breakup if that was something he already wanted to do, and you do not want a sexist man that judges women's value by her past.
that “but i can't change what happened before you” feeling is brutal. i once had an ex judge me for things i'd done before we met, and i spent way too long wondering if i was somehow less deserving because of it.
the thing is I'm not ashamed of my past im not proud of it but I was young and going through stuff I just didn't know better
I also hope that your not ashamed and that you know it dosent make you any less deserving or less worthy