Why do i keep questioning my breakup?

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I’ve been really missing him the last couple days, and I’ve been feeling depressed. The worst part about all of it is that I can’t stop questioning over and over again whether I made the right choice to end things. I no longer feel the anxiety I felt when I was with him, but now I just feel so sad. I worry about him a lot and it’s hard not knowing how he’s feeling and doing. I hate that my brain keeps revisiting the decision. In multiple ways, we weren’t a good match, but now that he’s gone my mind keeps idealizing him and telling me that maybe I made the wrong choice to let him go.

Last updated on:2026-08-23T10:26:59+05:30

Comments (12)

SorryWorld1
SorryWorld1 24 hrs ago

when you picture getting back together, do you miss the relationship you actually had with him, or the version of the relationship you kept hoping it could become?

KindHeart240
KindHeart240 19 hrs ago

honestly, I think the version of the relationship I kept hoping it would become

HeadMajor98
HeadMajor98 yesterday

i’d trust the version of you who was actually in the relationship too.

Complaint7
Complaint7 yesterday

after my breakup, the anxiety disappeared and i honestly thought that meant i’d made a mistake, but really i was just grieving someone i still loved even though we weren’t good together. the quiet made me romanticize EVERYTHING

KindHeart240
KindHeart240 yesterday

yes, it’s so hard. The quiet definitely causes me to romanticize him and everything.

zenik
zenik 2 days ago

thats so so normal and i get where youre at, i have a lot of regrets too and we just need to find a way too sit with it, ill let you know when i find a way how haha

KindHeart240
KindHeart240 2 days ago

Thank you 🙏 I’ll be searching for that way to sit with the regrets too

Miaa
Miaa 2 days ago

i think that this is normal. you know, when you stop having contact with someone that used to be a big part of your daily routine, you start to feel like your empthy. you delete all the bad things that they did to you and all the bad feelings you had. nostalgia make you remember only the good memories

Miaa
Miaa 2 days ago

i don’t know you, but i’m sure that, before making that decision, you thought about that a lot and you had your good reasons. maybe try to draw up a list of these reasons and of the bad things he did to you, and re read it everytime you miss him. i hope it helps and that you’ll feel better❤️

KindHeart240
KindHeart240 2 days ago

Yes that’s very true

KindHeart240
KindHeart240 2 days ago

@Miaa thank you, I really appreciate that 🙏

ZappyJet353
ZappyJet353 2 days ago

gii