how hurt do you have to be or feel for this? to forgive someone that you saw as a soul mate that you could see a future with and even be willing to learn to do and be better for. even still loving them and wanting them to be happy even when they laughed in your face and walked away when you spilled all your guts and emotions to them. even to abandon pride for them (i have been told i exude prideto the point where others even start to feel it in themselves). but how hurt do you have to feel as far as to being willing to reject them if they were to come back? but why would I feel like that I also ask myself because what if she comes back changed for the better and saw what she did to me. I could recover myself from how far I fell frankly but I am rebuilding myself loving myself and the people around me. it was such a bad break up that people changed their opinion of me and told me they were disappointed as I quote "you lost your mind" and when I sat down and explained the entire story they were speechless on levels where they just shook their head and said that I was a better person than them for even when hurt I never raised hand nor voice toward her. because I took someone who was strung out chasing their next fixed disowned by family and taught them the enjoyment and fulfillment of a real life with love to give them even as far as teaching one to love themselves as much as the love they give. I do not seek to persuade anyone to have hate for her but seek to tell the truth. but i guess my question is why do I still love and care even through it all? why do I feel some repulsion to the thought of trying again? why can I not seem to get her out of my heart nor bring myself to wield anger towards her?
Last updated on:2026-05-15T18:01:31+05:30
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when you said people thought you “lost your mind,” did anyone actually see how much of yourself you were carrying through that relationship? because it sounds like you spent years saving someone while quietly breaking yourself apart.
I told the guy everything I took someone on their lowest and brought them back to loving themselves. he even said he didnt know it all was like that and when I said everything he said she will regret it and she owes me an apology not the other way around but I still dont feel the need to belittle her because I am proud of her through my pain I still can't disrespect her
i don’t think you’re weak for feeling repulsed by the idea of trying again. sometimes your heart still loves them while your body remembers every moment it felt unsafe, humiliated, or abandoned.
i was with someone for years too and even after everything she put me through, i still couldn’t hate her. i kept loving her long after she stopped handling my heart carefully.
You don’t have to stop loving her or erase her from your heart. You just have to learn how to carry that love differently. Turn it into something that helps you grow instead of something that destroys you.
Choose yourself. You don’t need to hate her, and you don’t need to forget the memories you shared. You only need to accept that, sometimes, loving someone also means understanding that being apart is what’s healthiest for both of you.
Healing doesn’t happen all at once. It happens slowly, one day at a time. Some days will hurt more than others, but keep moving forward anyway.
Take all the love you still have and give it to the people who truly care about you — your friends, your family, and most importantly, yourself. One day, the love that hurts so much right now will become peace instead of pain.