It's been almost two months since my breakup and honestly most days I'm doing okay. I've been spending time with friends picking up new hobbies and trying to enjoy life again. There are even moments where I feel genuinely happy.
But some days especially at night it all comes crashing back.
I still think about him constantly. I miss him a lot even though I know the situation is complicated. He left me for someone else and that betrayal changed everything. Deep down I know that even if he came back tomorrow things could never be the same. The trust is gone and the relationship we had no longer exists.
That's what makes this so frustrating. My head understands all of that but my heart still keeps going back to him.
I can be having a great day laughing with friends and feeling hopeful then suddenly he's back in my thoughts and it hits me like a freight train. I don't want to spend so much energy thinking about someone who chose to leave but somehow he always finds his way back into my mind by the end of the day.
Last updated on:2026-06-24T03:54:12+05:30
Comments (5)
I reminded myself of everything he did. I've been writing on my journal too
It definitely takes time and that’s all dependent on things like how long you were together, how it ended, if you lived together, went no contact, etc.
When I was broken up with, it really sucked. Even if he did creep into my mind, I would remind myself that he left me. He didn’t see that I was worth staying in a relationship with. I knew we weren’t a good match and if he didn’t see that, why be attracted to someone who wouldn’t do everything in their power to make things work. Just like you, I had the best time with my friends.
They say the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else- it can help you detach but be careful abt that, not everyone can just do that anyways. My real advice would be to find your own way to detach and do something that makes you happy consistently, a good job, hobbies, make some money go doordash, anything you find productive or fun be so busy you dont even think abt it.
I know it's hard and nothing we say can compete with what you feel towards this person. We've been there. I remember last time I dealt with heartbreak I did everything they said, no contact, journaling, even praying to God to get rid of the feelings... But I came back over and over again, I was played with, lied, used, direspected in ways I can't even comprehend, but I always believed we were gonna make it.