We have been together for almost 7 months now. It was a hard start but we accepted our flaws and tried to make things work. Until recently there were somethings he did we inconsistent with his previous behaviour and I would normally ask like "hey why are you doing this" to a point where he told me I was nagging him too much and he got tired. It was just the feeling that came with the inconsistency that got to me. He also did other things which I corrected but to him it felt like I was controlling him when all I was doing was correcting him. Now he wants space and it's hurting me so bad.
Do you think I came out too hard with the corrections? Was I nagging? Did my actions push him away? Someone please give me advise.
Last updated on:2026-06-23T17:46:11+05:30
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i was in a relationship where every little change in behavior set off alarm bells in my head, and i'd keep bringing things up because i wanted reassurance. eventually my partner felt exhausted, even though i wasn't trying to fight with him.
i don't think asking questions automatically means you were nagging. i was learning the difference between raising a concern and trying to correct someone's behavior. once i stopped feeling responsible for fixing everything, a lot of tension disappeared.
That's the issue, especially when it's something that concerns me and affects me emotionally I address it. I've done that one too many times and he thinks I am controlling and told me that he is tired of me nagging him alot. Its like I walk on egg shells all the time
when you say you were "correcting" him, were these things that crossed your boundaries or were they habits and choices you wished he'd handle differently
Habits a choices I wished he handled differently and openly with a view to learn and grow in the relationship. It was never intended to insult him.