my ex kept calling me under the pretense that hey I got worried bla bla. I said a week ago do not call me unless you are willing to try again for us.
I am not counting it as a break of nc for my sanity’s sake I did not reach out and I won’t in the future.
when asked are you coming back the answer was of course I’m coming back.
but when where? I just have to accept that the door needs to be open a smidge on their end.
not coming back is what I need to think going into the future. someone who wants to come back just comes back.
just writing this down so I don’t go crazy. they probably expected an outburst of me calling back and sending a bunch of messages. I did not. and I won’t.
not coming back. and I’m not fumbling my no contact process for their ego boost or whatever that call was about when you care about someone you show up.
anyways just wanted to know if you guys thought the same I’m not counting it as a break in no contact.
Last updated on:2026-06-23T04:51:25+05:30
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the line that helped me was exactly what you said, someone who wants to come back makes it clear. i stopped trying to decode mixed messages and started paying attention to actions, it saved me a lot of heartbreak.
no actions whatsoever today they called again under pretense of emergency. what I got from the conversation was that yes they planned on coming back psychically to get their stuff. said I’ll leave it somewhere. so that’s that. not coming back to us. god im an idiot sometimes. some part of me thought they cared but no.
@poundcaker he sounds like a proper narcissist- you have your answer now.
when they said "of course i'm coming back," did they give you anything concrete at all, or was it just another promise hanging out in the future
nothing concrete why would they
My ex have done something similar always texting out of nowhere " Are you OK?" have made the mistake twice answering later to just be treated poorly by tge narsacist
honestly I’m starting to believe they don’t care just want an ego boost. it hurts but I have to accept it.
i actually think you handled that really well. i had an ex who kept checking in "because they cared" but never actually did anything to rebuild the relationship. those calls kept me stuck for months.
If they reached you out I think is a no contact break but is good that you asked if they were coming back, I think if they want to do it they would be clear about it and say their intentions so the no doubt. Keep strong you doing good girl ✨
fumbled completely today as they called again with presence of emergency. only now I got answers. they were only coming back psychically to take their stuff. said I’ll leave it somewhere. so on day 1 again of no contact and I feel hopeless they don’t care about me.