hey all i hope you’re doing well, I want to wish a happy birthday for my ex “discarded me from 4 months” and i went no contact but i know she’s so coward to reach me first.. also she’s avoidant..
Any way, i want also to tell her that i will be in her city in the end of the month “tbh i will be in her hometown then in our city so this also i need advice to give a detail or not and hope that she’s ok… just like that.. so what do you think
Last updated on:2026-05-26T23:43:37+05:30
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i used birthdays as an excuse to reopen doors that were technically closed already. sometimes i told myself it was “just being nice” but deep down i wanted reassurance she still cared
to be honest for me i’ve just want a good thing for her, i now we will not be together but i still care of her.. I don’t have any expectations
if i were you, i wouldn’t mention being in her city. when i did stuff like that with my avoidant ex it usually turned into me secretly hoping for a meetup or reaction, then feeling crushed when the energy wasn’t matched. a simple happy birthday is enough if you truly wanna keep it light.
thank you for that, i was not sure about this specific
if she replied cold or didn’t answer at all, do you think you’d actually be okay after sending it or would it reopen everything for you again
thank you for this hard question, to be honest i’m still healing but in the last step of that.. also i accept the point that i love this person but we will not be together.. i can’t say i will not care or like that because i really don’t know.. i learned a lot of stuff during no contact and specifically how to detach from anything also i think this will be my last time that i will reach for her.. and because of that i asked how to act because usually i said whole things directly or even don’t do the no contact.. but with this person it was different so much
but i hope really everything go well..
if you really want to break no contact, start with the happy birthday message and see if communication opens up