Why do i feel so helpless after the breakup?

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I know I asked for the no contact because she kept texting me and calling me about other stuff or sending a real and saying I miss you terribly but nothing about getting back together. everyday something to keep me there but nothing real. I told her 3 days ago if you don’t want me back she kept saying not now not on your (mine) terms. I told her I have no terms I want this to work. I want us to try again but she won’t for now. I said don’t text or call me until you want to try again. and now of course I am miserable no calls nothing. after all these years and the reason for the break up is not us it’s external money issues and work stuff. I feel so helpless I want to tell her I miss her and to ask again to try again but I know she won’t.

Last updated on:2026-06-19T21:18:56+05:30

Comments (8)

queenBB
queenBB a mth ago

my ex kept saying he missed me and wanted me in his life, but every time i asked if we were actually working on us, there was always another reason to wait. those mixed signals kept me stuck for months.

poundcaker
poundcaker a mth ago

yes it appears we are in the same situation they need someone to talk to but don’t want to be with me anymore

drysand
drysand a mth ago

i think you did something really brave. i had to stop accepting crumbs too. hearing nothing hurts like hell at first, but constantly hearing "i miss you" without any real action hurt me even more.

poundcaker
poundcaker a mth ago

thank you yes nothing hurts as well but false hope is also not ideal

Cookie8723
Cookie8723 a mth ago

what would need to change for her to try again, or does it always stay vague?

poundcaker
poundcaker a mth ago

she doesn’t want to change anything right now doesn’t want to try so she leaves it open.

letitgo_user
letitgo_user a mth ago

he is just breadcrumbing you .delete the app where he tries to message you

poundcaker
poundcaker a mth ago

can’t delete the app as we have some business together however will stop answering. no more false hope. maybe I should start seeing what I am worth.