I don’t want her back. I’m tired of caring in such a way that makes feel like i’m crazy. I don’t even want our relationship back but it’s my own insecurities. My need to feel like someone wants me and that I was good in bed and things of that nature. Seeing her and her bfs reposts made me realize that I’m genuinely disgusted by her. She is such a horrible person in my eyes and I don’t have a problem with the boyfriend it’s just I make what-ifs that make me question what he has and I don’t. Ultimately I’m insecure and the reason I’m searching for in things is to be validated because I struggle to give myself validation.
Last updated on:2026-07-06T18:05:33+05:30
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It is natural to compare yourself to an exs new partner. You have to rise above and not let it crush you. The key to building self confidence is self love. Hit the gym, be ontop of your grooming, be ontop of your meditation and mental fortitude. Its easier to attract love when you already love yourself.
i think being this honest with yourself is a HUGE step.
i kept telling myself i missed my ex, but what i really missed was feeling chosen. once i saw that, the obsession slowly started to fade.
if you never knew anything about her new relationship, do you think you'd still want her back, or would you mostly be at peace already?
you cant compare yourself to her new man. you need to take a step back and focus on the things about yourself you like and build those up. you are a better person then you think.
you need to work on yourself brother. focus on building yourself up get in a gym make yourself feel good in body and mind. believe it or not my mind never felt more clear then after I started going to the gym almost daily.
I dont think about my ex or anything. and I started talking to someone new and things are going in the right direction.
mate the what ifs are not real I did that aswell playing futuristic visions of us - but only realising its not real and I created that in my head - its a dream you need to let go and deal with reality and how you were treated
u need to focus on yourself