I was in a special marriage for 3 years. I was so into this relationship and gave all in it.
I am a single mother and my daughter is about 10 years. She was 7 when I married to the guy. We fell in love at workplace and I stated my need to marry not just casual dating. Then we jumped into marriage immediate after dating for only 2 months.
He promised to take responsibility of marriage and my daughter (not financially but emotionally and socially). I was damn happy about the bond we shared. After 4 months of marriage we fall apart- actually he pulls back all of his energy saying that he could not take all those responsibility and he is feeling overwhelming. we separated for 2 months. After 2 months I tried fix everything and I begged him to change and be like before.
He eventually came back with conditions that he wont take any responsibility and wont accept my daughter. This broke my heart into pieces. I tried to make him understand the situation - I was so broke cause it was my second marriage. I badly wanted to work this out. Despite all of unethical conditions I stayed with him. I was hoping that he will understand one day and everything will be fine.
Its been 2 years again and he was taking all of energy, advantages(cooking,sex,comfort) and shared nothing in real scenario. I took a crucial step for myself 2 month before and finally step out from this relationship. I was maintaining NC since then but after 1 month 20 days he called and says he was sick. I went his home and we got intimate. He didn’t initiate any conversation about relationship or real time fixing discussion.
I came back to my home and after one week I went to trip in hills. He knew about the trip, after coming back from the trip I saw I was blocked from everywhere. This fact I can not digest. I didn’t even text him after stepping out, why he did he blocked me. I am daily searching his id in what's app to see if he unblocked me. I feel shame for me, I was so unvalued and disrepected by him in that marriage. But still I am feeling something special for him. I want to forget all the good things about him and control my emotions... am I the only one facing these critical situation?
Last updated on:2026-07-11T08:05:29+05:30
Comments (9)
I am in a similar situation. only the kids were not mine and I have no access to them. I’m grieving the relationship and not seeing my kids. I hope you understand you are a good person and you just wanted someone to love and help out and yes responsibility of kids is a lot but I feel in your situation your ex had to step up or not marry you for your beautiful child’s sake and yours of course.
my ex kept coming back just enough to make me believe things might change, then disappeared again. i stayed way longer than i should have because i kept hoping the person i fell for would come back.
You need to focus on yourself and your daughter. I know it's hard to move on from something you wanted to work so bad . You should ask yourself if whether you want to be treated like that for the rest of your life .
I am trying babe! I wish I never forget the disrespect I experienced with him. pray for me ❤️
@ZenMaster123 I also fell in long with the man that is inconsistent.It hurts !! But now I'm learning to differentiate between reality and potential. I fell in love with whom I believe they could be, not who really they are at the moment. sending hugs
@CozyDream470 Take care 🤍
i know how hard it is when your heart still wants someone who treated you like an option.🥺
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i keep thinking about your daughter too. how has she been through all of this? i'm wondering if part of what's making this so hard is that you were grieving the future you wanted for both of you, not just losing him.