We lasted about 2 months into no contact when he reached out. I was so happy I never reached out first.
We attend the same music events so I've always known I'd bump into him every now and again. We tried a friendship but I knew it wouldn't work for me. How could I accept the consolation prize after sharing such closeness and intimacy with someone.
He's reached out a couple of times, but I always keep my responses dry and short.
Everytime he has reached out, it has confused me. Its like my heart awakens and wants to reach out for him again like there's hope we will get back together. I never want him back until hes proven hes put in the work and puts in effort, not just feed me with words I want to hear. I dont want to have this hope anymore, I dont want to long for him hoping he will do better.
Next weekend he will be at an event ill be at. He's already said hes looking forward to seeing me and talking to me. This is where Ill say my goodbye. No long speeches, just a "This is where ill say goodbye, you are confusing me and I need to protect my peace. I wish you nothing but happiness"
And I will go on in life in my lonesome way, but at least ill be free.
Last updated on:2026-07-19T02:29:42+05:30
Comments (9)
I would never have the balls to have a goodbye talk with my ex at a music event. It would just send me into a spiral tbh. You are much braver than I am, good luck!
what i wanted BEFORE i saw her, because once i was standing in front of them my heart forgot everything my brain knew. i'd protect my peace too.
i'm really proud of you for getting to 101 days. i had to let go of the hope before i could let go of the person too. that tiny bit of hope kept pulling me back every time he messaged
you get it. exactly this! Its my goal, by saying goodbye, I can finally let go. I know it wont happen immediately, but at least the time and space apart will help me
do you think saying goodbye is for you, or is there still a small part of you hoping he'll finally say the right thing?
I dont want to have hope, thats why im saying goodbye
This is very powerful, you should be proud of yourself
im not feeling proud, but I know its what I need to do. Everytime there's contact I want him back, I want him to work through things. He always tells me hes been thinking of me and it gives me false hope, I know hes just trying to remain friends. But I need to move on and I can't do that if everytime he messages me, I want him back. Its time I stop choosing him and choose me instead
@DreamyWay697 you will get there 🩷do not belame yourself for wanting someone. Heart doesn’t work with logic. You just need to protect yourself and not forget why you guys are in this situation