recently i lost my long term relationship randomly. it was secure and we wanted a future together until a random friday (2 days ago) where he decided he wanted to end the relationship with no way to prevent it. it was on his terms and he didnt want to fix it. im so sad and confused, and he said he "wasnt ready for a long term relationship, and wants to be single." im just so confused. he was my person, and the thought of him with someone else in the future hurts, yet, if he were to come back, idk what id do. please can you help me? i refuse to contact him.
Last updated on:2026-07-20T21:00:01+05:30
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i’m proud of you for choosing not to contact him, because i know how hard that urge gets. i kept wanting answers from someone who had already made their choice, and giving myself that distance was the first thing that helped me breathe again.
distance is the only thing that stops me spiralling. if i contacted him, id be in a horrible state.
did he seem different or distant before that friday, or did this truly feel like it came out of nowhere? i can imagine how confusing it is when someone’s actions don’t match the future they talked about
yeah it was out of nowhere. no other people or anything, just wanted to be single.
my ex ended things out of nowhere after we had talked about a future too, and my brain kept searching for the missing piece that would make it make sense. that shock is such a painful place to sit in
same to me happend, we are in this together! best wishes to you
it takes 30 days for the human brain to break a bad habit give yourself that much before returning focus on yourself and your healing journey if he does come back dont make it easy on him actions will need to matter more than words if he is meant for you he will work for it the important thing right now is to love and take care of yourself 🫂 i record my crash outs and honestly I wish I would've done it earlier in my journey something about watching yourself cry on camera just makes you want to do better and it is healing 😊 come on here anytime you feel the need to reach out this community is soo strong and the more you lean on us the better you will feel we dont judge we ground you help you identify your emotions and let you come to your breakthrough I hope this helps