I am only okay cuz I'm holding on to the hope of us getting back together. he's an avoidant and I believe he chose to end things cuz everything became overwhelming for him. we constantly argued last month cuz he started withdrawing again. this repost makes me lose myself. is that a sign that he stands by his decision and there is no more hope? I'm standing firm in my no contact until his birthday which is on October and idk anymore. I'm so lost. so hopeful yet so in pain.
Last updated on:2026-07-28T04:21:12+05:30
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treating no contact like it was for me, not as a countdown until i could reach out. i still hoped for a while, but i stopped letting every repost decide how my day was going.
Don’t play the “maybe someday” game with an avoidant. Trust me. It doesn’t matter what you believe his intentions are or were for leaving. It’s not your job to figure it out. It’s his. Until he works through his avoidant attachment tendencies he is not someone you want to put hope in. Focus this love and hope on yourself. You are the prize, and he should be the one crawling back to you.
has he ever actually come back after pulling away before, or are you carrying this hope mostly because it feels too painful to let it go right now?
i spent months hanging on because i thought every little thing online was a hidden message, and it kept me stuck more than the breakup itself. i've been there.