i've been trying so hard to feel like myself again since my husband admitted he had an affair with a 22-year-old while i was pregnant and after i gave birth. i thought i was making progress but some days it feels impossible. we've been together for 13 years and married for 4. now i look at him and feel like i don't even know who he is.
this isn't the first time cheating has shattered me. when i was a teenager an ex cheated on me with a younger girl who even had the same first and middle name as me. i was young and completely fell apart. i smoked drank used substances and couldn't afford any mental health support. i even confronted the other woman because i was convinced she had something i didn't. eventually i realized i wasn't even fighting for him. i was fighting the feeling that there had to be something wrong with me.
then i met my husband. i truly believed he was the person who helped me heal from all of that.
now it feels like i've been broken all over again. almost like he helped put the pieces back together just so they'd fall apart once more. my self-worth is at its lowest. i barely recognize the person i see in the mirror and i struggle to find any sense of purpose. if it weren't for my baby i'm scared to think about how far i might have spiraled.
how do i start believing in myself again? how do i stop feeling like someone else's choices define my worth?
Last updated on:2026-07-29T01:58:12+05:30
Comments (8)
Your husband sounds like a terrible person. I hope you are able to find someone else who loves you the way you deserve.
It’s not wrong of you to be utterly devastated by this. It’s not a shortcoming to have normal feelings of grief. You don’t have to be better. Anyone in the world would be deeply disappointed by this.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I wish you strength and good luck 🤍
I think therapy is your next step. You seem to attract a-holes and you should teach your kid that there are good people out there
I know it’s so so hard to stop feeling this way, but you need to remind yourself that a person’s actions are a reflection of themselves and not you.
Noone could love you more than you can love yourself. always love yourself first
Stop looking at any human as your "Savior" because firstly if you need saving, you're the only one who can do it, and secondly humans are disappointing.
what you are going through is really difficult. I am sorry this has happened to you. Do you have access to some therapy? That would probably be a good place to start. you dont have to carry this pain on your own.