Hi yall, I’m new here.
This might sound surprising, but I’m 20 and this is my first ever breakup. That’s right. He was my first everything and so I’m struggling pretty badly. He broke up with me out of nowhere only to start talking to a new girl not even a week later.
He’s easily influenced by people around him, so it makes me wonder if his friends influenced this decision (the girl he’s talking to is his best friends girlfriends best friend). He will repost stuff dedicated to her and then unrepost it, post her on his story and then delete it, etc. He also made all these promise about getting back together when we first broke up only to later say we won’t. Like, this man was hysterically sobbing into my blanket while talking about how he still loves me and how pretty I am and how we will get back together, he just isn’t happy anymore. Just to presence, I’m working on not looking into what any of this means, but it’s hard when he’s so hot and cold (and yes, that includes me attempting to stop stalking his socials, so far as which I’ve failed).
I’m so hurt and confused, but I know that if it’s meant to be, God will put him back into my life. I’m still holding onto hope of getting back together, but I know that in order for that to happen, I need to heal and move on. Like they all say: They always come back, right?
Last updated on:2026-07-29T14:34:12+05:30
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if he came back today but was still this unsure and inconsistent, would that actually feel safe for your heart?
my first breakup too, i kept trying to decode every little thing they posted because i thought there had to be some answer there. all it did was keep me tied to someone who couldn't give me a clear yes or no
That would be incredibly hard. Who knows if people come back. But I think we all have to ask. do we want people back who have hurt us?