I am using other guys to get over him which is something I feel guilty about. It’s just that I know it’s over and I need to move on so I wanna replace him. I think I can’t do that. I am so mad this relationship didn’t work out. I felt so comfortable with him. I genuinely thought I was gonna be in a long term relationship with him.
Last updated on:2026-08-02T00:28:12+05:30
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i get why you're reaching for a replacement. when i finally stopped trying to outrun the breakup and let myself be sad for a while, the constant comparison started fading.
do you actually want to get to know these other guys, or are you mostly hoping they'll make the silence after him hurt a little less
I do wanna get to know them but mostly because someone new would distract me from him
I also wanna use other guys to get over him but I don't want me this evil
i tried filling that empty spot with other people too, and every date just reminded me of who i actually missed. i felt guilty because those guys deserved someone who was really present, and i deserved time to heal too.
it does help
i did that a few years ago, i understand, try not to, but don't hate yourself for it 🩷 take your time
If you really want to date, I'd suggest get to know that person well! Be genuinely interested, ask questions! Don't associate that person to your ex, I feel mostly you keep associating that is why it is getting harder for you!
Don't be guilty, yeah you had a meaningful connection with someone! It doesn't mean, you can't have connections anymore! Try these next time!