how do i genuinely get over someone i never even dated? we’ve shared so much together and it’s the closest i’ve ever gotten with someone within a short period of time. he’s leaving soon because he’s an exchange so distance will make things hard for us to interact as much as before. we’d stay in touch but i fear the day when we’ll suddenly just stop talking and he becomes a distant memory. i don’t want that. we’re not even dating so why does it hurt so much? he probably doesn’t even care because he doesn’t think about me as much as i do about him. i know i’ll have to let go eventually because nothing will happen between us. but the memories make it unbearable and difficult to detach completely
Last updated on:2026-08-03T16:38:18+05:30
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do you think he knows how much this goodbye is affecting you, or have you been carrying all of this by yourself?
i don’t think so. he knows so many people that i’m probably the least priority to him
i've been there with someone i never officially dated, and somehow that almost made it harder because there wasn't even a breakup to point at. i kept telling myself i had no right to grieve, but i was still losing someone who mattered.
i do the same thing. he was my everything but i was just an experience to him
Hey I'm kinda in the same thing. We're not dating not we use to talk, and flirt every day. When we hang out its like we're actually in a relationship. We are separated by distance and we have alot of memories.
I often think about what if one day he chooses someone else over me, because I'm the one that has the most feelings ir cares more.
What I can say is give yourself grace. Take things one day at a time, try talking and see if u guys can get on th3 same page if not you'll have to decide if u want to move on or stay. The longer u stay an hold on the harder its going to get and its going to hurt.
Take it one day at a time, wishing you all the best, I'm rooting for u❤️
It really messes with your head. They say they like you but not enough to willingly step up and build a relationship with you. Honestly girl, it’s better to let go atp. Unless there are certain beliefs involved, it’s okay to love softly then move on. I wish you all the best of luck🍀
@Lois thank you. I'm taking it one day at a time ita been 4 days.
I miss him, but he hasn't reached out and neither have I. Maybe he'll come back maybe he wont but for now I have to do whats best for me and that's move on