He asked for something of his back and I responded so nicely, said I’m not ready to give anything back right now and he was such an asshole about it. Wtf is wrong with me. I don’t even think I have this jersey that he wants because I couldn’t even find it when I looked for it now now
Last updated on:2026-08-10T15:02:12+05:30
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i think you handled it fine. you don’t owe him instant access to your things just because he asked, especially when you’re still hurting.
It just hurt me so bad because I was doing so well with no contact- and then when I do break the rule and respond he’s such a jerk about it like why would I backtrack all my progress for someone who doesn’t care if I live or die
do you think finding that jersey is really what he wanted, or was it an excuse to have a reason to contact you?
I don’t know, I get the sense it was to push my buttons since I hadn’t been responding for like two weeks before that. Kind of like if it’s his I can’t ignore him? It feels like he just wanted to “win” because once I responded he acted smug if that makes sense. I said I didn’t have it and he’s like “guess it’s gone then.”
I turned the house upside down and threw everything out of the cupboards and I asked him to please look again.
Turns out I didn’t have it.
i was so polite to my ex about returning his stuff and still got treated like i’d done something awful. you’re allowed to not be ready.
There is nothing wrong with you for feeling that way. You are in a state of struggling to accept it whilst he has already made his mind up. He should be very patient with you but yes, he seems like a real asshole. you arent alone my love ❤️