Why am i still dreaming about my ex after 7 months?

im doing so much better lately. its now 7 months after the breakup and like 6 months no contact.
but i dream about him suddenly almost every night. very vivid dreams. for example dreams where we talk things out or dreams about how we used to be. or dreams about him moving on and doing better than me.
i dont know why this happens all of a sudden, when im feeling great during the day. its just that when i wake up after a dream like that, i feel soooo down and sad.
can anyone relate?

Last updated on:2026-09-04T22:06:12+05:30

Comments (8)

hunterguy
hunterguy 2 wks ago

this hurt to read because i remember thinking the dreams meant i was going backwards.

FRANPW1
FRANPW1 2 wks ago

you wake up from those really vivid dreams, does it feel more like you miss him again, or more like you’re grieving the version of the relationship you remember?

ChillFlick610
ChillFlick610 2 wks ago

hmm good question. i think both. i just miss being with him and being part of his life. dreaming about him moving on or having a better life than he had with me hurts a lot

Nobody22
Nobody22 2 wks ago

i was doing SO much better during the day, then my ex would show up in my dreams and i’d wake up feeling like i’d lost him all over again. those mornings were brutal.

jewel66
jewel66 2 wks ago

I can definitely relate. Healing isn’t always linear, and sometimes your brain processes things in dreams long after you feel like you’ve moved on during the day. Having dreams about him doesn’t mean you miss him or that you’re going backwards. It’s probably just your mind processing old memories and emotions. Be gentle with yourself when you wake up feeling sad—the feeling will pass. 🤍

ChillFlick610
ChillFlick610 2 wks ago

thank you🩷

DreamyWay697
DreamyWay697 2 wks ago

its been 5 months since my breakup and the last 2 weeks I've been dreaming of him when he barely crosses my mind anymore. It just feels weird and kinda makes me miss him all over again. But I can still come back to reality and miss him, we still love each other but know we aren't right for each other. I just love him from a quiet distance now

CozySoul437
CozySoul437 2 wks ago

i get you girl i totally get you i am at the beginning of the break up phase and i literally see him in my dreams every fuckin day and its getting very hard for me to keep my daily routine after those dreams yesterday i saw us all cuddling dancing kissing each other i was thinking about it all dayy and today i saw a dream that he texts me "oh i wish we didnt even met you deserve nobody fuck all the things we had done i hate you and i will never forgive you you are the worse person i ve ever met in my whole life" and i get up with severe heart ache i hope it doesnt affect me today but yeah i totally get you dreams are kinda ruin my day