I was upset when I found out my ex-gf was pan/bi and started dating a boy but purely bc she identified as a lesbian like forever im not as annoyed now I mean as long as shes happy idrc. But the thing is I've been bisexual, lesbian & pan throughout my life and ive only dated 1 man (online) and dated 2 women (1 online and 1 irl) and now im starting to like this boy in my college course after ive identified as lesbian for i think 2 years but I feel bad bc I was upset with my ex moving on fast to a boy (2 months later) and now im starting to like someone too 3 months after our breakup. Part of me feels shit for comparing when she started dating someone new fast but also not bc yes i like someone but I haven't confessed nor am I dating anyone im just confused in a way i dont know maybe its bc I didnt like anyone at the time...
Last updated on:2026-09-12T00:21:11+05:30
Comments (5)
i used to think i had to stay single for a certain amount of time to prove i actually cared, and that just made me feel guilty for having normal feelings. liking this boy doesn’t mean you’ve moved on faster or that your breakup meant less to you.
hi same my ex gf say she lesbian with me date then break up say focus myself not ready relationship she date new girl her bio say she bi put that girl name and IG note song with love it's hurt me she fast move on
i think you’re comparing the two situations because you were hurt when your ex started seeing someone so soon, but do you actually feel upset about liking him, or are you more scared that it makes you look like you did the same thing she did?
im more scared that it makes it look like i did the same thing she did
i get why you feel guilty, but damn, i don’t think you did anything wrong by starting to like someone again. i’ve had feelings come back way sooner than i expected after a breakup, and it didn’t erase what i felt for my ex