ok so several times I've said this will be the last time. but I promise!!! its actually the last time I reset no contact.
Tonight we bumped into each other at a gig. We said a polite hello and he said he was too wasted to have a convo. I said thats fine and to have a good night. Honestly, thats all I wanted. I knew we could be civilised and say hello and both just have a good night away from each other.
Deep into the night he came up to me whilst I was on the dancefloor and said "the reason why I havent responded to you (voice note in text) was because you were right" and he walked away. What I said in that voice note was that everytime he reached out it was confusing for me and the fact he wanted a friendship was to soften the blow and the guilt he felt for hurting me and that i didnt want that kind of friendship.
Honestly that comment floored me. It upset me to the point I could no longer enjoy myself. The intention was to stay another 3 hours but I couldn't get past it.
I went to leave because I wasn't having fun and I saw him. Said to him, the reason I was upset (the voice note you can tell im obviously upset) is because the previous msg he sent was a description of how he felt. So the reason I was upset was because he put so much effort into that message than anything he did while we were together.
And I left.
I've just sent him a text saying "I wish you only said hi and left it at that. Instead you dragged me into a space that still hurts. You are not a bad person but that was painful. Ill still love you from a quiet distance. Have a good night"
I believe this final interaction as sad and painful as it was to have to leave early, it was the final nail in the coffin. I am so done. I have moved on, but I feel he will now be less and less in my thoughts. I wish him well in life, but I no longer want to hear about what hes doing. Its no longer my job to care if things are going badly for him. ill always love him, but nows my time to move onwards and upwards.
I move through life with love in my heart, but he just takes a teeny tiny part of that. I move through life with the experience of him and what I will no longer tolerate
Last updated on:2026-09-20T15:20:39+05:30
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i keep thinking about what you said about him taking a teeny tiny part of your heart now. do you feel like tonight finally showed you that you can love him quietly without needing him to have a place in your life anymore?
exactly this 👏
i’d leave it exactly where you left it. that message was honest, kind, and had a boundary in it, and i learned that closure gets easier when i stop waiting for the other person to give me one.
the funny thing is, I already gave myself closure, but he keeps pulling me back into the past where it still hurts. Im ready to move forward and thr less I get reminded of the past, the less it will hurt over time
i’ve had one of those “final” no contact resets too, and honestly the last interaction hurt more than i expected. sometimes you need that one painful moment where you hear something clearly enough that you finally stop making room for it.
im definitely feeling the pain but this time feels different. I actually feel ready to leave him in the past.