He hurt me for the last time this time last week when I bumped into him. Since then I've been processing the pain but have come up with some realisations.
At first because he had got a haircut (he had shoulder length wavy kinda mullet to zero hair), physically I no longer felt any physical attraction to him. After a couple of days I realised the person I loved no longer existed. Its been 5 months since we broke up, hes had 5 months to live his life without me. The person I loved lives in the past. The person I loved was the version of him when we were together. I do not love the present version of him because I no longer know who he is and who he has become. And im ok with that. I can think of our memories and still feel love. I will always care for him and I wish him all the best
Last updated on:2026-09-29T03:19:47+05:30
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when i ran into my ex a few months after our split and he felt like a complete stranger in a familiar suit, and realizing the person i was grieving literally only lived in my memories was the exact moment the heavy weight started to lift.
I'm finally feeling that heaviness lifting
the biggest thing that helped me hold onto that peace was stopping myself every time i tried to guess what he was up to now. keeping my focus strictly on who i was becoming instead of who he used to be kept me from slipping back into that old pain.
was there a specific moment during that run-in that made it click for you, or did it just hit you once you got home and had time to think?
it was the fact that even though he ended things, he was always the one to reach out and I think subconsciously i was hoping for reconciliation. When I realised that was not happening, id ask for space again. During our breakup I've been nothing but kind and respected his decision. This last run in, it was like he wanted to hurt me on purpose. I just couldn't believe someone who loved me would do that