I met someone really amazing. and it’s so weird because I’m scared that it will turn out the same way as my previous relationship. i still love my ex but im not in love with her anymore. im starting to fully see her as she was and not the idea I made up in my head. im trying to realize it’s okay to move on for me. how do I allow myself to trust again? I’m scared. but this new girl is amazing and kind and already has given me more communication and intentionality than I got in my year relationship. I thought I was going to marry my ex. it’s been 6 months and I went through hell and I’ve healed a lot. but is it too soon? how do I know I’m ready? do I just jump in and let fate play out as it’s going to? I didn’t intend to like this girl this much. it caught me by surprise.
Last updated on:2026-10-25T04:51:12+05:30
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liking someone new and feeling guilty because part of me still loved my ex. i was so scared of missing the red flags again that even the good things made me nervous.
six months doesn't automatically mean it's too soon.
i can feel how much you've healed just from the way you talk about your ex now. what is it about this new girl that makes you feel safe, and what scares you most about letting yourself get close to her?
hey, so I was a girl who dated a man who was 6months out of his break up. we were together for 3months. the start he was so excited and thrilled by me, but slowly his unresolved stuff with his ex became an overwhelming weight. I can’t say you’re in the same position or mindset, but please take it slow. be super clear of your feelings, intention and if you have doubts or changes in how you feel. I met this guy’s mum and sister, and he held my face and told me he liked me and all his friends we were dating and it was going well. cuddled and kissed me all night, and then less than 24hrs after all of this called to say he felt no romantic feelings. I am not saying you’re the same, but be super honest with yourself and to her. if you’re not ready or something changes for you, think of her and her feelings too. If it’s all working out, go for it! jsut don’t hide anything or keep her in the dark.