How do i overcome this emptiness after a long-distance breakup?

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How do you overcome that feeling of emptiness and loneliness? I've been with my ex for 4 years in a long distance relationship and we've called almost every day. We had a healthy relationship and it ended because of our situation rather than our relationship itself. Most of the advice I see is based on toxic relationships which I cannot relate to. I've grown so much because of him and he has too. We had such a strong emotional bond but life gets in the way. It's really hard some days I really struggle because I feel lonely. There barely anyone around me that would understand and is physically here to talk to.

Last updated on:2026-05-08T22:02:22+05:30

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flyhigh
flyhigh 4 days ago

i remember feeling this exact emptiness after my long distance relationship ended

ChillMe712
ChillMe712 4 days ago

How did you deal with it?

gamertech
gamertech 4 days ago

ugh i feel this. do you think you’re grieving the relationship itself more, or the loss of having “your person” there every day to share life with?

ChillMe712
ChillMe712 4 days ago

I'd say it's both really, it's him but also the time we've spent together

Lazyqueen
Lazyqueen 5 days ago

this hit me hard because i went through a breakup like this too. there was no cheating, no toxicity, we still loved each other deeply but distance and life slowly crushed it anyway. honestly the silence after talking every single day is what broke me the most 💔

ChillMe712
ChillMe712 5 days ago

How did you deal with it? I just feel like time is moving so slow when he's not here

coryh922
coryh922 5 days ago

For that long of a bond, your withdrawal will take a long time to get over. I find that fighting my fears of wanting to not get out of bed, or go see friends make it worth it. I can’t tell you how many times already God put something in my path already that justified the step I made.

ChillMe712
ChillMe712 5 days ago

The problem I have is that my friends are busy, and I'm usually alone for most of the day. I'm just left in my thoughts

DreamyWay697
DreamyWay697 5 days ago

I feel you. when you say barely anyone, does that mean there's at least one person you can talk to? my relationship wasn't toxic either which makes it hard to move forward because I still love him deeply, but know it wouldn't work out, so I dont fight for it. When Im feeling lonely, I watch podcasts by Mel Robbins and Jay Shetty. They help me see a different perspective on life. I try not to doom scroll on socials, because I find it makes my emotions spiral

DreamyWay697
DreamyWay697 4 days ago

@ChillMe712 im sorry your friend betrayed your trust like that, im sure it wasn't intentional to hurt you. Always here for a chat if you need, i know its not the same since I dont know the dynamic of your relationship. I feel pretty alone, I dont really have a "tribe" but I have a couple of friends im close to but they are always busy, we tend to only catch up once every 2 months. Everyday when Im feeling lonely or my emotions get too much, I just go for a long walk and it really helps me calm down and ease the pain