why do I have to be the one that cant let go?? why is it so easy for him, i want to feel free again but i am stuck on thimk about a milion what ifs. I just want to let go of him and be happy myb fall in love with someone else but no my heart wont let go of him and i am just making myself look stupid by how i act. I want it just to be over finally and move on with my life and not be stuck in the past.
Last updated on:2026-05-26T03:35:11+05:30
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my ex moved on so fast while i was still replaying every conversation in my head at 2am wondering what i could’ve done differently. the what ifs will eat you alive for a while
i finally accepting that i was embarrassing myself trying to hold onto someone who already let go. once i stopped chasing answers, my brain slowly got quieter.
your heart just needs time to catch up. Give yourself grace and kindness. It will slowly get better I promise. Try and stop yourself from thinking about the what ifs. Do anything to distract your thoughts, you are still giving him all the power.
hey, I totally understand you and how difficult it is. I struggle with this myself too. What helps for me is to conpletely cut off all access from him. so make sure that you wont get any updates from his life (social media, friends etc). About those what ifs: thats the hardest part. it could help to journal those thoughts 5 or 10 minutes a day, set a timer and then stop. put all your anxiety and thoughts on paper in those minutes and then let it go for the rest of the day. it could help you with getting some grip on your worries. also talking to someone you trust also really helps. just get it out of your system and dont internalize it too much and one day (hopefully for me too) it will stop haunting you every day.
and also, it may look like its easy for him. but you will never see the reality of how he's handling everything. not every struggle is visible so dont compare your healing journey with his. you're doing great and i know how hard it is, healing is never lineair🫶
ty so much❤️
you still hopes he’ll come back someday? because i stayed stuck for months mostly because i secretly thought if i loved him hard enough he’d change his mind.
same