she was my high school sweetheart. we were together for 13 years. we grew up side by side went through countless ups and downs and built so much of our lives together.
when my mom passed away 7 years ago she was my rock. then about 4.5 years ago she moved abroad to study. we tried long distance for about a year but my anxiety got the best of me. i became jealous started arguments and created tension. i never intended to hurt her but over time it took a toll on the relationship.
at the same time she was building a new life meeting new people and growing in ways that naturally created distance between us.
3.5 years ago she ended the relationship. it completely shattered me.
i spent two years in therapy and genuinely believed i had moved on. i thought my love for her had been packed away in a closed box somewhere inside me. then life hit me with more loss. my cat died then my grandmother passed away and those old emotions started resurfacing.
a few months ago i noticed she had unblocked me on instagram and linkedin. that small thing sent me into a spiral. i sent a follow request that she ignored. later i sent a goodbye message that also went unanswered.
that's when i realized i hadn't moved on nearly as much as i thought i had.
yesterday i found out she's been in a relationship for over a year maybe even two. from the outside her life looks incredible. she has hobbies she loves she's doing well financially and she seems genuinely happy. honestly she deserves all of it.
meanwhile i feel stuck.
i have a decent job. after the breakup i started dancing which helped me rebuild some confidence find purpose and meet new people. i've tried dating too but nothing has really worked out.
last night was one of the hardest nights i've had in years. i spiraled and sent her another message telling her there were still so many things i never understood and that i would appreciate hearing from her someday.
instead she blocked me again.
and i think that's what hurts the most.
she seems to be living the life i always imagined building with her. she calls someone else her home now.
i don't want anything bad to happen to her. i truly don't. i just don't understand why i can't seem to move forward the way she has.
why do i still feel stuck after all this time?
will i carry this with me for the rest of my life?
Last updated on:2026-06-03T19:53:11+05:30
Comments (4)
when you picture moving forward, do you feel like you're grieving HER, or are you grieving the life you thought the two of you were going to have together?
my soon to be ex husband broke up with me after almost 14 years together in a text and phone call then moved out before I got home next. it is the most destabilizing and difficult to manage because you dont really know a life to refer back to because they were your entire life/lifetime/lifeline. keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know you're not alone friend ❤️
13 years is a lifetime when you're that young. i lost someone what broke me wasn't just losing her, it was losing the future i'd already built in my head. seeing her happy with someone else can make it feel like you're the only one still carrying the relationship
How did you notice that she unblocked you?